How do you explain UC to your children? My 10 yr old notices way more than my 4 yr old and he gets really upset when he sees me in pain. How do I explain to him that I'm ok, even though I'm in pain, I'm ok.

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k_murphey76
Answered 11 months ago    reply

My 4 year old asked me Mommy why you always pooping? I said idk I go when I have to go.

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

That's what I tell my 4 yr old, but he's easy. He doesn't realize that my pain means something is wrong. My 10 yr old knows something is wrong.


karly_95
Answered 11 months ago

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p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

I'm trying to be 100% honest with him and explain to him that this is a forever thing. But I'm trying to make him understand that I'm ok and he doesn't need to worry. I'm a single mom and it's been me and my boys for 3 1/2 yrs, he tries to be more of an adult and he wants to take care of me, so it's really hard for him and I don't knlw how to get him to just be a kid and let me deal with this.

karly_95
Answered 11 months ago    reply

In all honesty his 10, so his hormones are telling him hos more of a man, maybe let him be alittle more? Obviously he cant care for you

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

When I'm sick and can't get up, I let him cook for him and his brother. He's been cooking for years so it's something I can trust him to do. He will also do most of the laundry, my washer and dryer are in the basement so stairs get scary when I'm weak. He has always had an old soul and it was always pretty much he and I so he is super protective and is a fixer. So he wants to fix my pain so bad and he gets emotional when he can't make it stop. My family is 22hrs away so I can't even send him away for a day or two when I'm bad.


karly_95
Answered 11 months ago    reply

I think you just have to be open to extremely personal questions :')

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago

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karly_95
Answered 11 months ago    reply

Yesss do it!!! Kids honestly need visuals, to him you just have a sore tummy and need the loo, ♡

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

Thank you.

karly_95
Answered 11 months ago    reply

Anytime!!! Being a mum is a freaking hard gig, led alone when you have something like what we have!! ♡♡♡ i honestly hope ive helped ♡♡

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago

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loralee76
Answered 11 months ago    reply

My guy is now 6 and I've been flaring on and off for the past year. It started by me saying my bum is sick. Now I tell him that the doctor is helping me get better. I'll explain more when he asks but for now he thinks it's hilarious that I'll have a camera put up my bum tomorrow

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

My youngest thinks it's funny when I pass gas, which is often. Lol


llacie93
Answered 11 months ago    reply

My son is six and for years now he's known mom has good days and bad days..one day he wanted to know if he would get sick from me (he won't) and why when he gets sick it goes away but mine comes and goes...hard to explain chronic illness to a kiddo..but I did my best..most times you get sick and your immune systems fights the germs and you get better. Mommy' immune system is confused so sometimes it makes her sick instead of making her better but other times she's ok. It comes and goes..I think he got it

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

I like that, explaining about the immune system. He asked me if he will have this one day, I told him it's possible but not a guarantee and that we would deal with that later if needed.

llacie93
Answered 11 months ago    reply

ardell thankfully mine hasn't asked that yet, with the flare I've been in lately, I've been emotional so I might start crying about the thought...

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

It's just hard to explain without scaring them. Don't cry, you don't need anymore stress. Sending hugs.


mui_southerland75
Answered 11 months ago    reply

I tell my daughter mommys tummy isn't the same as your tummy and I need a little more rest then some people and have to watch what I eat so I don't get a sick tummy

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

That's what I tell my youngest, my 10 yr old is really mature for his age so he wants more answers. Lol

mui_southerland75
Answered 11 months ago    reply

Mine is 6 almost 7 she's also mature she asks a lot of questions

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

It's rough trying to explain it all.


alycia_jayne
Answered 11 months ago    reply

Honesty. Explain it. Kids get things faster than adults.

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

Yes they do.


v.copp
Answered 11 months ago

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p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

I LOVE that. Mommy's intestines are mad! My son told me this morning he wants to watch the surgery, I'll probably let him but only when his little brother is asleep. Lol.

v.copp
Answered 11 months ago

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p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago

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v.copp
Answered 11 months ago    reply

My son likes to tell everyone "the doctor cut mommy's belly open, and I popped out and said SURPRISE! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!" kids are hilarious lol

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

Their perspective on life is amazing.


enchanted
Answered 11 months ago    reply

We have explained that everyone is different & it is these differences that make the world so wonderful. Mum has CD and do has to be abit careful with what she eats etc snd needs to take special medicine everyday... as well as go into hospital everymonth for a special medicine to be injected. However she has great Drs and specialists that help keep mum as well as she can be. He understands it all & knows if mum's tummy is hard, hospital might be needed.


shaquana_69
Answered 11 months ago    reply

Kids feel helpless when their parents are suffering. Maybe you could give him ways he could help you.

I love gentle cuddles when I hurt. I love when you sit next to me. I love when you bring me water.

Whatever it is give him ways to feel like he makes a difference. As far as explaining why you feel like you do, just try to explain in easy to understand language and let him know it's ok to be upset and acknowledge his feelings.

p_ardell66
Answered 11 months ago    reply

Thank you


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