Incontinence. Can't keep my husband dry with pullups. He is mobile but doesn't GO IN TOILET ANY MORE! Everything is wet. What does everyone do? At wits end!

28 Answers

nestoradelaide
Answered 1 year ago    reply

First have him tested for a uti... if this just suddenly started, then he may have something wrong. Also, have his prostate checked. If both are clear put him on a seduce every 1.5 hours have a timer go off and remind him to go sit on the pot. Around the clock.

torrenceliane68
Answered 1 year ago    reply

I would not do it around the clock. Once or twice during the night should be enough. There is a need of resting and undisturbed sleep too.

miley
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Common sense , wtg girl !


l.esta
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Potty schedule and/or briefs..they hold more...maybe use bed pads where he usually sits too

fogel.b
BevOP
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Yes...we do all of this. Just frustrating some days

l.esta
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Bev look into ur insurance. You might be able to get some HHA to help and give u a moment to breathe


wallace.cardi
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Adult diapers and a lot of patients is how we deal with our father


pattersonlorene
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Exactly what i do with my mom I use ladies briefs ...to potty every 2 hours...after 7 p.m. I have to cut her back to no liquid til at least 5 am.an I use bed pads in chair an on her bed...it has helped me alot..an her clothes are not wet thur in morning. ..


lavon83
Answered 1 year ago    reply

My mom puts a always overnight liner inside my dad's briefs, since the volume that he goes is too much for the pullup sometimes.


nestoradelaide
Answered 1 year ago    reply

It's important not to "cut back" fluids and risk dehydration. Rather front-loaded fluids: give 50-60% of all daily fluids before lunch, 30% before dinner and only 10% after dinner. So for 62 fluid ounces, you would have them drink 32-40 Oz before lunch, another 30-24 Oz before dinner and 4-6 Oz before bed.


ehtel69
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Been using Depends. Made big difference, also much better odor control.


fey
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Yes depends are made better to keep The wetness away from the person. Worth the extra money


t.hortense68
Answered 1 year ago    reply

I use VA prescription disposable underpants And Depends guards/pads for my husband. He still has accidents day and night. The thing about incontinence is They go without knowing they are going. They can't wait or hold it. Their brain and body are not functioning. It isn't potty training. It is just their body eliminating waste.

fogel.b
BevOP
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Yes...I realize this & was really looking for possible products that people use to help.


gatlin
Answered 1 year ago    reply

My father is good during the day but at night he is terriable. He barely drinks anything ever. Mom wakes up in the middle of the night soaken wet from Dad. She has to get up have a shower at all times of the night. She refuses not to sleep with him. She has incontinent pads on the bed and he has a heavy diaper on. Still wets through everything. If your husbabd is going all day it just may be to much for u to handle. I work in long term care and many of our residents r living their because of incontinent problems Don't burn yourself out your not good to anyone else if your not good to yourself.

576
Answered 1 year ago    reply

There are medications. Perhaps he has a urinary tract infection . Ask primary Dr first or if he has a urologist


irizarrylyle
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Will you be able to hire a caregiver at home? We had a caregiver who used to take my dad to the bathroom every couple of hours.

fogel.b
BevOP
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Was just approved for Medicaid so we should be able to get help soon.


fogel.b
BevOP
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Thank you all. It is an ongoung problem for so many of us in this situation obviously. Any soecific Products that anyone has found more helpful than others is what I was hoping to learn. Thank you for your responses & God Bless each & every caretaker out there.


baxter
Answered 1 year ago    reply

We use pull ups with pads inside the pull ups sometimes we use 2 pads at a time and we use several chux pads under her in bed. We use the Chux on anything she sits on too.

fogel.b
BevOP
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Yep...we do too


baxter
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Definitely make sure there is no utica first of all.


fogel.b
BevOP
Answered 1 year ago    reply

No UTI....and hes on a medication from the Urologist to lessen the amount of urine.


fogel.b
BevOP
Answered 1 year ago    reply

My hubby is only 66 and has been getting worse for 4 years. I guess I need to accept the fact that this is our life now. It's really hard to go from an active, very social couple to this. Adjusting still...you do not expect this in your 60's with a spouse...its life changing all around :(

t.hortense68
Answered 1 year ago    reply

I agree, my husband is 53

fogel.b
BevOP
Answered 1 year ago    reply

I'm so sorry Hortense...in my prayers!


jina67
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Get a waterproof mattress pad or sheet for the bed that does help the mattress from getting soaked I bought my mother one at Walmart.


hue.e
Answered 1 year ago    reply

Ask his doctor about a urostomy bag for urine incontinence and a colostomy bag for fecal incontinence.


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