Mom wears night time Depends, and still has bedtime accidents. Suggestions?

29 Answers

feller43
Answered 10 months ago    reply

???


g.moll
Answered 10 months ago    reply

How often during the night do you check her and change depends if wet? In a memory care facility the standard is check and change every couple ,of hours. That tends to be,disruptive of both your sleep and the elder person's, but I still would recommend checking her every 4-5 hours at least.


feller43
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Ok. Thanks.


miley
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Use a very large wet pad under her . If she is in a kingsize bed , time to stop kidding yourself and get a full or twin that is comfortable and much easier to change . When families do not make changes needed it becomes a hard chore daily .


566
Answered 10 months ago    reply

I make sure I'm not giving her any drinks before bed time and I check on her every 5 hours..yes I'm sleep deprived but I rather not deal with wet beds and smelly blankets..Also try a cloth under her while she's asleep..


feller43
Answered 10 months ago    reply

She has a new full bed, replacing an old Mattress and box spring. Mattress and box spring rubber covered. Two waterproof "bed covers" on top before the fitted sheet. Know she can't help it, but frustrating as hell...


feller43
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Already monitoring fluid intake too..

alfreda.h
Answered 10 months ago    reply

I never ave my mom fluids after dinner I'd give her a few oz. If she seemed parched... But she with out fail pee buckets in her sleep. ... I just learned to go with the flow ... No PUN intended... It was just part of life .


566
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Yeah it's really frustrating and it doesn't get easier but we must remain calm,they don't know any better anymore!! I send you hugs!!


lavon83
Answered 10 months ago    reply

You can also put another pad inside her Depends, for extra absorbent. Poise overnight pads work well

feller43
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Thanks!


filomena
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Limit liquids before bedtime. With my mom, dinner hour is the most fluid we give her late, then water but limited an hour before bed. We have waterproof pads underneath her to protect mattress. You can also add liners to her depends for nighttime too. I always make sure several trip to bathroom occur before bedtime too. Good luck & God bless!


lesa.bad
Answered 10 months ago    reply

I buy the plastic mattress covers and night time pads to put under my mom and her last drink is at 7:00 pm it's helps a lot only sheet and nightgown to wash then Clorox wipes to clean plastic bed covers


g.moll
Answered 10 months ago    reply

The chucks that hospitals and nursing homes use are great. They are absorbent and soft on one side, plastic on the other, they measure about 2'x3'. You put them under her hips with the absorbed,t side up.

lornamullaney7
Answered 10 months ago    reply

These are the best things to use! They will keep the bed dry, just make sure you have a couple so you can wash the dirty one. Don't use fabric softner you will loose absorbency.


jina67
Answered 10 months ago    reply

It is inevitable I use bed pads, plastic sheets and water proof mattress pad and limited drinking in the evening and some nights she stays dry and then there are other nights she is wet.


kathryne.b
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Do you get up with her and maybe take her to the bathroom and change her? And like someone said, limit the fluids after a certain time of day.


lashandrafanelli66
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Nothing unfortunately you can do


alfreda.h
Answered 10 months ago    reply

I'd check my mom every few hours but it never failed she'd pee pee her self in her sleep so I bought some felt back plastic table cloth / covers and put that under her sheet then a bed pad I was able to wash and bleach the table cover, it helped she had a hospital bed in her room at that point . It's difficult to watch in the wee hours of the morning as the only care give, it's impossible to do every 4 hours diaper check at some point we need to sleep. .. during the day it's different I was with her constantly. . If I figured it to be about the time for the potties we'd go sit, on that it got to a point if she had to poo she'd poo I could not get her out of bed quick enough, I could be standing right there and she'd make an oh no face then I'd clean her up...


lenniebouchard47
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Feller, I bought overnight tranquility diapers 3x from amazon and 32oz booster pads to go in them. She slept 12 hours a night, never had a rash or bed sore . Put Vaseline on first if you want. I also bought a 8" foam mattress from wayfair for her hospital bed. It came in a box and puffed up beautifully, cheap. There was a time I had to use un- strippable pj's when she still could walk because she would take them off and pee on the floor.

alfreda.h
Answered 10 months ago    reply

My mom's ins. Gave her a gel type of mattress pad it was great ... the type thy use for bed ridden patients. ...

miley
Answered 10 months ago    reply

You really did a wonderful job coping with the stress she was going through . God bless you !.

lenniebouchard47
Answered 10 months ago    reply

We had that gel mattress from medicare too but her back still hurt, I gave it to my dog.

alfreda.h
Answered 10 months ago    reply

lennie I was a massage therapist So I'd work on my mom it helped I know anyone that has to lay in bed has issues


rosenfeld
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Limit liquid intake after 5


miley
Answered 10 months ago    reply

If they seem dry mouth gum or a small piece of candy may help after 5 .


traversh
Answered 10 months ago    reply

I found Assurance at Walmart to be the best.


g.moll
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Just a comment on limiting fluid intake: be careful. Elders often do not really sense when they are thirsty. Insufficient hydration can cause medication reactions, loss of appetite, delirium, falls, dizziness, and uti risk, among other things. Monitor skin and mucous membranes for dryness. During the day, offer fluids at least every hour.


m.karima
Answered 10 months ago    reply

Buy adult inserts & ask her to put before the depend. Buy bed pads and place over her sheets.


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