So I have hsv 1, but downstairs. I’ve never had a cold sore and I shared a drink with my friends child. He’s two and had a low fever and has a few sores in his mouth! They showed up a couple days after we shared a drink! I’m so scared and feel terrible! What do I do!

How do we know they aren’t hsv!

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cranky.Ruble
Answered 5 months ago    reply

If the cold sores are still there have them get swab tested.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I don't know if they look like cold sores even! I’ve never seen one

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expectantadvisor85
Answered 5 months ago    reply

It could also be hand foot mouth. More common. Any rash?


haile72
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Kids that age are always getting hand, foot and mouth disease so my guesses would start there vs hsv.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I’m just worried because hekeeps telling her that his mouth hurts

D_Garland82
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I was going to say this too. If they're inside his mouth and look like canker sores I'd assume hfm

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Yeah they kind a look like blisters. They are only inside of his mouth or on the inside of his lip. One of one kind of looks like a pimple.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

A couple of them look really big and look like canker sores

pagano.roseann
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D_Garland82
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Roseann is the mom having him checked out by a doctor?

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Deirdre The mom had him checked out by a doctor but she said she will get a second opinion if she does I don’t know but I’m sure she will contact me if she does

D_Garland82
Answered 5 months ago    reply

What did the doc say?

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Deirdre The doctor said that he thinks it’s HSV one in the mouth. He said it is not necessary to run a test.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

But at the end of the day if he does have it it would be quite the coincidence and I would be blamed for it. And this is how the cycle of misinformation continues

D_Garland82
Answered 5 months ago    reply

He needs to be swabbed in my opinion. But I'm also the type of person and parent that wants a confirmed diagnosis. I'm sorry they're dealing with this and that you will be scapegoated for it.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Deirdre It’s OK I just have a lot on my plate right now and this just adds to it so I’ve been very stressed about it all day


Lucia85
Answered 5 months ago    reply

It's not hsv. You have it genitally not orally so it can't be transmitted orally. Also the virus can't live on surfaces so it's very hard to pass it via inanimate objects

pagano.roseann
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Lucia85
Answered 5 months ago    reply

There's been studies that show it can't live on surfaces for more than a few seconds. That's like saying you can get genital herpes from a toilet seat

surprised.foggy79
Answered 5 months ago    reply

It can live on certain surfaces for hours.

w.daron
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pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Daron I saw that too! I literally would feel so terrible

w.daron
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Don't feel terrible - it's not as if you did it purposely. In fact, it is possible the kid got it from another kid. HSV 1, in particular, is very pervasive and one of the reasons people grow up with HSV and never even realize its technically the herpes simplex virus.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Daron it’s just ironic after we shared a drink. Her man isn’t too happy with me right now.

w.daron
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Roseann I would honestly refer them to a doctor and have the doctor explain. Anything you say is just going to be ignored.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Daron I told her to take him in.

Emilie.zesty
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Daron but she has it in the genital region so impossible to pass it orally.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

emilie but that doesn’t mean I couldn’t have been exposed orally

Emilie.zesty
Answered 5 months ago    reply

If you already have it in the genital region, and you've had it for awhile, the odds are extremely low that you would then contract it orally. You have already built up antibodies to it. I have GHSV1, I don't have to worry about getting it orally now.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

On call nurse said she seriously doubts that that’s what it was. she thinks it could be hands foot and mouth disease.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

She’s taking him to the doc today


pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I don’t know what to believe

Emilie.zesty
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pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I literally feel so bad if I put a child in danger


Emilie.zesty
Answered 5 months ago    reply

If you have genital than you can't have given him oral from sharing a drink. He may have canker sores. I got those all the time as a kid, and boy they hurt but they aren't herpes.


vapidquestion
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pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Thank you!


Aliza.97
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Genital herpes lives in the base of the spine. It will only break out below the waist. If that is all you have - there was no risk. Besides, herpes isn't spread through inanimate objects or saliva.


Lattimore_Timika5
Answered 5 months ago    reply

It's a coincidence. HSV isn't transmitted this way, only by skin to skin contact. Genital herpes can't be transmitted orally in any case - only with skin contact below the belly button line.


pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Thank you all! I really appreciate all of the feedback


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rmatti78
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Sounds like hand foot and mouth

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

That’s what I think since it’s multiple sores as well. I feel like I’ve been so uneducated on it.

rmatti78
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vapidquestion
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Emilie.zesty
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vapidquestion
Answered 5 months ago    reply

emilie 100%


pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

UPDATE: The doctor thinks it’s hvs1 and he doesn’t think testing is even necessary because that’s what it looks like! I’m so confused!

Lattimore_Timika5
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Children are rarely tested. It would need to be a special case for a Dr to testing for hsv as it's so common.

Emilie.zesty
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Well, you can rest assured that the child did NOT get it from you. It's not possible. Stop worrying. Stop feeling guilty. You did nothing wrong. You are not to blame.

Kym.Jeffers
Answered 5 months ago    reply

My son got it orally. I only have it genitally. I was terrified that I somehow caused it, but it turned out a bunch of kids at daycare had "HFM"-I'm guessing the parents were either embarassed or their peds got it wrong.

Audrie.C
Answered 5 months ago    reply

A visual diagnosis isn't definite. However, the fact that the doctor isn't concerned about testing because oral HSV-1 is so common ought to comfort the parents. There was a good chance he could contract it from anyone at any time.

Doesn't necessarily improve your friendship with the parents, but I will agree with everyone else saying it could not have been your fault.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

No matter what at the end of the day they will believe it’s me over believing it was someone else because it happened so recently

Audrie.C
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I don't suppose the parents themselves have ever been tested? Greatest chance is they are the source. (Assuming the diagnosis is correct.)

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Audrie well they don’t really have health insurance apparently. so I doubt if they get their child tested they will get tested too

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

So no matter what I think the blame will fall on me if he has it.

Audrie.C
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pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Audrie it’s a really sad situation because I don’t know what to believe. I don’t mean to not believe what the people in this forum are saying but I’m also not a doctor.

Kym.Jeffers
Answered 5 months ago    reply

How long is the incubation period? Isn't it a week?

Aliza.97
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Anyway that has cold sore could have given it to the child. Ask if they or any family members get cold sores.

Aliza.97
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Drs don't spent much school time on herpes.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Aliza I asked and she said that nobody who kisses him has a history of cold sores that she knows of.

Aliza.97
Answered 5 months ago    reply

That she knows of.

Audrie.C
Answered 5 months ago    reply

At least half of adults have oral HSV-1. The majority will not have a known history of cold sores.

adrienetormented
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pagano.roseann
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Aliza exactly! It’s a sticky situation

pagano.roseann
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adrienetormented
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Roseann can you update us as well? I hope this turns out positively.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Adriene I will definitely keep everyone updated but it might be a while

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Aliza I don’t think they have any health insurance currently.

Aliza.97
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I asked for the baby. not them. Many just have kids covered.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Aliza I know she told me their state insurance dropped both of her children.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

So currently both have no health insurance

antoinette_72
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Roseann I have had hsv1 orally for over 40 years. My kids have never gotten it from my straw or utensils. You’re not going to pass it orally if you have it genitally.


pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

She said she would get a second opinion but why wouldn’t he test it to be sure


Aliza.97
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Anyone could have kissed that child and passed it. That is how most people get hsv1.

Best to swab it. "thinks" really isn't an accurate diagnosis.


scholarlyBratcher
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Could be hand/foot/mouth disease. Very common among toddlers. Sores in mouth, fever and sores on hands & feet are symptoms.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

He doesn’t have anything on his hands or feet! I’m so confused

scholarlyBratcher
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Roseann you don’t necessary have to have sores in all those places

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haile72
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Most toddlers get HFMD in their mouth especially if they attend daycare because of teething and putting toys in their mouths.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Lucina he’s not in daycare. I guess his grandma watches him

RLaurena
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Roseann wonder if grandmother has been tested,cause so many have HSV1 silently. most also have no clue that cold sores are herpes. They dont realize the silent shedding part.


amused.pedlar99
Answered 5 months ago    reply

It’s most likely not from you. I wouldn’t even worry about it or bring any attention to the parents leading them to blame you.

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amused.pedlar99
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Roseann I have GHSV-1 and it’s super rare to have it in more than one location

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Lina there’s no way for me to convince her and her husband that though

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

My friendship with her really matters to me

amused.pedlar99
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pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Lina yes please

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amused.pedlar99
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Meghann Ok I’ll send you a request now!


indignant_wharf
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Not possible

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I guess that’s not what the doctor said. What matters to me is my friendship with my friend and no matter what she’s going to believe a doctor over believing her friend

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pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Kurtis I wish I could I just think she’s super overwhelmed right now

indignant_wharf
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Understandable but has she ever been tested? Or every family member or friend thats kissed the baby? For you the frustrating part is that you did nothing wrong and are getting all of this shit for it. Sucks and I'm sorry for you.

Aliza.97
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indignant_wharf
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pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I don’t know what to believe anymore

amused.pedlar99
Answered 5 months ago    reply

Their doctor is most likely just going on information told by the parents. He probably thinks you have oral HSV-1 came in contact with the baby and boom they have a sore. But you don’t have oral HSV-1.

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lowell67
Answered 5 months ago    reply

I know you have had a lot of feedback but I would back that up some more and say, try not to let it stress you out without having results. It will do nothing of good. Even then, highly unlikely you caused it.


pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

My friend believes that no matter what if he has it. she said she thinks it’s impossible for me not to be the cause. she was nice to me about everything thus far.


pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

She’s taking him in tomorrow for testing

Lattimore_Timika5
Answered 5 months ago    reply

She should test herself and anyone else who kisses him, too.

Lattimore_Timika5
Answered 5 months ago    reply

If she thinks you're the source. And teach her about asymptomatic shedding.

pagano.roseann
Answered 5 months ago    reply

timika I wanted to say that. but I didn’t want to come off as rude. She’s read all about it. but it’s too ironic that he got sores a few days after I shared a drink.


Morse_66
Answered 5 months ago    reply

My kids got canker sores due to a sensitivity to an ingredient in their toothpaste, changed their toothpaste to TOMS and they don’t get them unless they go to grandmas and use another toothpaste brand. Don’t beat yourself up over this it’s not related to you.


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